Teaching your kids about Giving Back

Teaching your kids about Giving Back

We all want to give back a little more. Volunteer more. Donate more. Give more of ourselves. However, in a world where it seems like moms are pulled in so many directions already, it can be hard. Sometimes we keep putting it off and saying we will always do it later. When we have more time. But the point in our lives where we have more time just never seems to come.

I was that person completely. I’ll get more involved next year. I’m pregnant and too tired. We’re trying to get pregnant and I need to focus on that. There’s always a million ways to avoid it.

Then it dawned on me. What was I teaching my kids if they didn’t see me being actively involved in their schools, sports and community. They didn’t know that I was giving money or donating items. They didn’t see that. Nor would they care. Kids learn by seeing and doing.

I decided to adopt a different philosophy. Start small and give more when you are up for it. For example. I couldn’t devote the time to volunteer for the parents board of my son’s preschool. However I could definitely take shifts at the fall fair booth they use to advertise in our community. By putting my foot a little in the door I could be more comfortable in the future of what kind commitment they might need.

The other thing that I have realized over time is that giving back doesn’t need to be defined purely by donations and volunteering. Giving back is also about being a good person and giving your energy to people around you. Giving back encompasses all the extra things that you can do to help people you care about and strangers that need it.

Giving back is a broad term that encompasses a lot of different things. Below is a list of ways you can give back and include your kiddos in the process.

Here are a 10 ways you can start to teach your kids to give back and include them:

1. Donate Blood

It is so easy. I was scared to do it for years. I had a personal reason that encouraged me to donate and I enrolled a few friends to join. We had so much fun together during the process and going out for lunch afterwards that we now make it an every 3-4 month date. It takes about an hour and can only be done every 3 months. So at the most you are looking at 4 hours a year. Totally Doable!

It has also opened up a wonderful conversation with the kids. They see mom going out to donate blood and they have a million questions. My oldest has even made comments about how one day he wants to come with me when he’s old enough to do it too. It warms my heart to think that maybe they will continue this on as they get older.

2. Christmas time Adopt a Family

There are a lot of different organizations to do this through. Google “Christmas adopt a family” in your city and you can pick an organization. You are assigned a family that has applied. You will be given a list of items that each of the family members has requested as Christmas gifts or items they are in need of.

Its usually financially a lot to take on individually. A woman in our community always puts it on our community Facebook page and different families sign up for different items. Then she hosts a wrapping party where a bunch of people get together and get all the gifts ready for the family. Its a little time consuming, but once a year and an amazing opportunity.

This one is very easy to do as a family. We try to pick one item each off the list and then go out to find them together. I have the kids pick out toys that they would want for Christmas themselves to give away. I was taught that the best gift is something you would really like to keep for yourself, but are willing to give away because your care. I want the kids to carry this sentiment.

3. Buy a $10 gift card for the parent that has stepped up

There will be certain years that you just can’t carry your weight volunteering at school or with your kids sports associations. It could be due to illness, career, childcare, or any other reason. We’ve all been there.

But there is always that one parent that volunteers for everything and picks up where we can’t pitch in. Show them you notice by giving them a little card and a $10 Starbucks or Tim Horton’s gift card inside. It will warm their heart so much. Don’t worry, there will always be another year that you can be the parent diving in head first. Don’t beat yourself up.

The way I include the kids is to have them make a homemade card. That way you can explain to them why you are giving the thank you card to that parent. They get to see you not only being genuinely appreciative of somebody else’s hard work, but taking the time to voice it.

4. Buy the Grocery bundle at the counter

I don’t know  if every grocery store has them, but two of the ones that I frequent have prepackaged bundles at the counter. They are filled with staples that can be donated to the foodbank. I love these and try to purchase them as often as I can to put in the donation bin. They give you $5, $10 and $15 options.

Then give it to one of the kids to carry and place in the bin. Hopefully it will become so ingrained in them, they will continue to do it when they buy their own groceries.

5. Enroll your Family in a Clean up Walk

Give the kids some gloves and hold a garbage bag while you go for a walk around your neighborhood. Make a game over who can pick up the most litter. Or offer them a reward. If they fill the whole garbage bag then you will take them for ice cream!

6. Support Local Business whenever you can

Whenever you have the option or choice to support local and small business, please do it. We can’t do it all the time. I’m as big of an amazon shopper as anyone else. But I buy meat from a local butcher. I buy a good portion of my clothes from another mom that does pop up shops. I buy most of the the kids hockey equipment from a small local store rather than the big box stores. Its another version of giving back by choosing to support community.

I’m not sure if this lesson is lost on them at this point. As they get older, it will be easier to explain the impacts that shopping local have and why they should do it.

7. Give a mom the day off when she needs it

Do you have a friend or a mom you know through school that never asks for help? Or even when you offer she has trouble taking it? Do something for her. Try to give her a full Saturday by taking her kids. INSIST on it. If she still says no then make her a care package. Put a homemade Lasagna, bag salad, bottle of wine, face mask, chocolate chip cookies and a bath bomb. She will be so touched and grateful. Sometimes people just need that reminder that we’re all in this mom thing together.

If I want to do a “just because” gift for a friend, I like to include the kids. I would never tell them the details I’ve why a loved one might need it. I can just tell them something simple, like they had a rough day so we’re going to make them smile. We will make cookies together and they can draw a nice picture and we will do the delivery together. I want the kids to know the importance of being kind to their friends and how small gestures can mean the world to people.

8. Offer a Ride

This kind of goes with the above reason. People always hesitate to ask so just always offer. I probably offer three rides a day. I probably only end up giving one every few days but I always want other moms to know they can rely on me and that I truly am happy to help.

This is purely just the kids learning through seeing. They see me trying to be helpful. Hopefully. Let’s be honest, they probably don’t even notice ha ha. But maybe they do.

9. Volunteer for Neighborhood Events

My neighborhood holds a lot of social events. A LOT! Volunteering for all of them would be a full time job. But I pitch in where I can. Probably not as much as I should. But doing what you can is always helpful, even if its setting up tables and chairs. If your community doesn’t have these types of events, send an email to your home owners association or residents board and see if there are any events they host that would need volunteering.

10. Do a Smile Day

I’m not kidding. I’m really not. Have you tried it? Just wander around and smile and say hello to people. Hold doors. Let people go ahead of you in line. Sometimes you don’t have the energy to be captain happy all day. But if you have it in you to throw out ridiculous amounts of positive energy one day. Just try it. It feels great for you and the people you can affect.

How many of you have had your kids ask “Why did you say hello to that person”? When you smile at a stranger and say hello. “Mom, do you know them”. I like being able to tell them that’s its just polite to greet people and it can make your day to have a positive interaction with someone. You never know who’s day you might turn around with a smile.

The Takeaway about teaching your kids about giving back

We all know how valuable our time is. You never seem to have enough. You don’t have to be the super hero that does everything.

Start small and give time and energy when you have it. Pick an area that you enjoy and go with it. Have fun, include your kids, show them how it adds value to your lives to give your time to different causes.

Happy Giving!

Hydrotherapy Self Care

Hydrotherapy Self Care

My Hydrotherapy Experience and How to Recreate It

Hydrotherapy is my number one way to relieve stress, I just never knew it until recently.

This was always my go to. Long day? Hot Bath. Needed a minute alone? Hot shower. Want to feel motivated? Ice Cold Shower. Favorite feeling in the world? Diving into a cold lake. I always pull towards water for help physically and to change my state of mind. It just wasn’t something I was aware of or really thought about.

I also love spas. I mean who doesn’t? They just don’t quite fit into the budget that often. Last year I was fortunate enough to go to a spa and have an experience called a hydropath. I had no idea what I had signed up for. I just new it involved water and had rave reviews. Sounds great!

When I got there I changed into my bathing suit and was guided down this staircase to a basement. I was with two friends. We were told to hang up our robes and they would be waiting for us at the end. End of what?

The door opened and we entered a dark cave-like oasis. Not at all what I was expecting. The guide explained that she would leave us at each station and return when it was time to move to the next. We spent the next hour going through the following stations:

  • A cave shower with more jets than I knew were possible. We giggled and held on to the walls as we were blasted from all angles. Trying to hold our bathing suits on in certain areas. What the heck did we get ourselves into?
  • Next came a grotto style Hot tub. You were supposed to rotate around the tub to enjoy all the different jets
  • We were then whisked to another cave room with Five showers. Each with different water flows and pressures to rotate through. Some were great. Some drowning. But still a very unique experience
  • Up next? The eucalyptus steam room. It was a great as it sounds
  • So my friends opted to skip what came next. The ice cold waterfall Shower. I really do love cold water as much as hot so I gave it a go. It sucked my breathe away but I felt like a new person after.
  • Now was a long path of hot water up to your waist with jets at different heights to massage different points on your legs. You did three laps through the hot water in one direction and then came the opposite direction in an ice cold long pool with the same type of jets.
  • Second to last was another hot tub. This one was called a saline hot pool with a high salt content which caused you to float quite easily. There was a rain shower that poured lightly from the ceiling.
  • The last one was really cool. You had your own little bath. It was shaped like a clam shell and you crawled into this almost scalding hot water basin. They gave you a little bowl of body scrub and cold cloth. After exfoliating your entire body you placed the cold cloth on your face and relaxed until you went into a noodle-like state.

I slept amazing that night. and felt very calm and mellow for the rest of the day. I am so happy that I got to enjoy this really cool experience. It also made me realize how much I depend on hydrotherapy to help me on a regular basis.

How Can you do this at Home?

Last time I checked I don’t have an elaborate Grotto filled with hidden jets and steam rooms. I have a tub, a shower and a few bags of epsom salts. I also rarely have hours to lounge around in the water so I wanted to design a hydrotherapy relaxation night that I can do every once in awhile when I really need a recharge.

I came up with this routine. Its not fancy but it really does renew me. 

First I work out. This does add up to an hour for time but it heats up my internal temperature and gets the blood flowing in your muscles and lungs. I find when I push my breathe as hard as I can during a workout, I can find my slower breathing easier after. I’m not going to pretend I’m an avid fitness junkie. Its something I struggle with. But I find it really helps for stress release. 

Onto an ice cold shower. I don’t mean mildly warm. I mean icy, have to take short breaths. I do this for about two minutes. Quick soap up and shampoo to rinse off the workout sweat. Bonus to an ice cold shower. When you step out check yourself in the mirror. Everything is quite perky! Its a confidence boost for sure.

I start a hot bath which I fill with epsom salts. While the bath is pouring I splash warm water on my face and put a face mask on. I stand in the tub which is ankle deep at this point and do a shoulder to toe body scrub. Standing in the tub is less messy than standing on a towel and the warm water on your feet feels nice. Then I move back to the shower and do a 10 second rinse in the shower to get the scrub and face mask off. 

Sink into the tub and relax for minimum 20 min. You muscles need at least 20 min in the hot water with the salts to start to let go of tension. I know its a cliche but I love to light candles and listen to music. Otherwise I find I get bored. I love the feeling of hot water on my scalp so I periodically dunk my whole head under the water in the tub. 

I like to stay in the tub until I’m too warm. That’s my deciding point to get out. Once I get out,I lotion my entire body and immediately put on my coziest comfy clothes. These usually consist of my husbands fleece sweatpants and over sized hoodie. 

Finally I stretch for 15 minutes before sleep. I do very simple stretches and yoga that are easy for me to do 8 second breathes. 4 seconds in and 4 seconds out. By the time I’ve completed my stretches I am done! Ready for bed and I feel amazing. I always sleep so deep. If I have been extra prepared and organized I make sure earlier in the day that I’ve changed the bed and have nice fresh sheets to crash into.

I can’t say its the exact same experience as the spa hydropath. That place was amazing. But for an at home bathroom hydrotherapy spa night its become my new favorite. One last thing to really emphasize. I saved it for last so you would remember. During your whole hydrotherapy experience, HYDRATE! Drink lots and lots and lots. You might have to pee a bit through the night but your body needs it. 

If you have any other hydro tips I would love to hear them! Send me an email.

Happy Relaxing

14 ways to use less chemicals in your Home

14 ways to use less chemicals in your Home

Chemicals! They are everywhere. We hear things everyday about all the cancer causing agents we run into on a daily basis. Products that we think are safe are jam packed with terrifying chemicals with unknown effects.

Unfortunately some are impossible to change. You can’t control the air quality or proximity of cell phone towers. I genuinely get anxiety when I think of all the possible things I’m exposing myself and my kids to by using plastics and eating processed food. But the bottom line is that you can’t change everything and you can’t be perfect.

Slowly over the years I’ve changed a few things to help my comfort level and feel a bit better about my every day life.  The truth is I can only do so much. My kids are always going to eat Mcdonald’s. I’m probably always going to buy hot dogs for convenience. I’m not perfect and never will be. These are quick changes I made and you can too!

You are a busy person and adding work to your life won’t make changes sustainable. These are things that I’ve changed that don’t take a lot of extra work for me. 

This List is 14 Ways you can use less Chemicals in your Home Today

  1. I switched my laundry soap. When I started reading about how many chemicals are in laundry detergent and dryer sheets I was floored. You wash your sheets, pillowcases, clothing, blankets and towels with laundry soap. These are all things you are in contact with all day. So I researched and came across https://www.ewg.org/guides/cleaners. This website is an amazing resource. They rate all of the detergents from grade A through F. Even many advertised as “clean” or “organic” still get C or D ratings. The one that I use that I love is Nature Clean Powder. The powder is a bit of a pain. I mix it into water before dumping it in the machine and it works great.
  2. Dryer Sheets. After learning how many chemicals are laced into dryer sheets I switched to wool dryer balls. They work pretty well. I miss the smells of the sheets but you get used to it. I tried putting essentials oils on the dryer balls and it works a little but not great. An extra bonus of the wool balls is that when you switch to new ones,  you can give the old ones to your kids to play indoor hockey with. No more wall dents!
  3. Dishwasher soap and dish soap – You eat off of your dishes and drink liquid out of cups so the last thing you want is them coated in chemicals. From the same website listed above https://www.ewg.org/guides/cleaners. I found Nature Clean dishwasher pods and Eco-max Natural Lavender Ultra Dish Wash. I love them both!
  4. Shampoo and conditioner –  The same website has a handy dandy personal products guide as well https://www.ewg.org/skindeep/.  Instead of the letter rating system for personal products they rank 1-10. I use Deva Curl products because I have very curly hair. The rank a 4 out of 10 on the personal products scale. Not as good as a 1 but in an acceptable range for me.
  5. Hand soaps – We use a variety of hand soaps. Usually I buy whatever is on sale. But I use the same guide https://www.ewg.org/skindeep/ to make sure I”m not purchasing anything with too poor of a rating.
  6. Body Soap – I make my own with Dr. Bronner’s Castile Soap. You can buy foaming soap dispensers at Walmart or on amazon. I fill halfway with water. Then I put a cup of castile soap and 8-10 drops of my favorite essential oils. Super easy and smells amazing.
  7. Beauty products – I don’t wear a lot of make up so this one was easy to switch. I should wear more but I’m lazy ha! A friend of mine starting selling Beauty Counter so I tried a few products and became hooked. They are all Ewg.org certified which says a lot too. My skin looks better than it ever has. In the past I struggled with adult acne and since switching to beauty counter I never have any issues. Check out their product line here. Its a bit more expensive than what I used to buy but it lasts forever!
  8. Milk and Meat – I once had a conversation with an owner of an organic grocery store. I am not in the position to buy completely organic groceries for our family of five. I asked him if I were to switch just a few things what would he recommend? He said milk and meat no question. They both have a lot of hormones that get passed onto the consumer through ingestion. Yuck.
  9. Cleaning products – I make my own. I have experimented with a ton of recipes using vinegar, castile soap, essential oils and witch hazel. Bonus is that I never worry about my kids grabbing chemical cleaners out of a cabinet and they can help me clean without me worrying about them ingesting something poisonous. Check out my full article on Castile Soap uses.
  10. Radon test – I feel like I hear about radon a lot. But the other day someone told me they had never even heard the word. It is a tasteless, odorless gas caused by uranium decay. Ok so how does that affect me? Sometimes when homes are built, the ground is disturbed and uranium in rock can release the gas into your house for years. It is the second highest cause of lung cancer next to smoking. You can have a radon test done in your home and if it comes back positive there are methods to stop it from coming into your home and the air you are breathing. For more information check out https://www.canada.ca/en/health-canada/services/health-risks-safety/radiation/radon.html
  11. Use mineral makeup and sunscreen. Sun Bum is amazing! Costco also has a mineral makeup brush that I used for my infant daughter all over her hair because she had such fine hair and wouldn’t keep a hat on.
  12. Use glass instead of plastic when you can. Its pretty much impossible not to use plastic. Its everywhere. But small changes like storing leftovers in glass instead of plastic make me feel better.
  13. Buy organic frozen fruit and veggies. I mentioned before that buying organic everything is a bit of a stretch for us. I wish I could, but its so pricey and it spoils quickly. I found a bit of a work around for produce. My kids love eating frozen fruit and smoothies so I buy organic of these items since they last longer. You can buy t?hem in big quantities at Costco or during sales to stock up.
  14. Plug your phone in at night in the hallway – I used to sleep with my phone under my pillow. Then someone told me they started plugging it in elsewhere because of fear of brain cancer. Who knows if cell phones and brain cancer is a myth but its such an easy change so why not? Not a terrible idea!

I know its impossible to live a completely chemical free life. But small changes can add up to big difference. Implement these changes and feel better about trying something new and healthy.

Goal Setting with Kids

Goal Setting with Kids

HOW DID I GET INTO GOAL SETTING?

I am a big advocate of goal setting. I was super lucky early in life to work for a company that did SMART goal setting as part of my job training and ongoing development. Being given the ability to learn it for myself and teach it to my employees was a gift I wasn’t anticipating.

Once a year I sat down with each one of my 30 employees and went through their 1 year, 3 year, and 5 year goals in the categories of Health, career and personal. Being super honest, at first I kind of rolled my eyes a bit at the process. I’ll admit it. But I have a big heart and I love to see people do well. I saw how valuable and literally life changing it can be and I’ve used Goal setting ever since.

Let’s go back in time to when I was doing one particular goal setting session with a team lead on my staff. I don’t remember the specifics of her goals, but I remember the result. She came back to work the next day and resigned. That sounds bad but let me explain. By focusing, she realized she wanted to spend more time with her son and expand her family. She revised all of her goals and realized that working full time and developing her career within our company just was not in the plan. 

Believe it or not, the company encouraged this type of development. The reasoning was that every employee should be better at something by the time they leave. They should be encouraged to take that next step in life. More confident and prepared. I’m so grateful that I had that experience and developed those skills.

BRINGING GOAL SETTING INTO OUR FAMILY LIFE

Fast forward 15 years. As with a lot of things in young motherhood, I had gotten away from goal setting. You go into survival mode for months or years at a time and then every once in awhile you get some extra energy or moments of clarity that you want to do better. Do more. That’s why I wanted to refocus on getting my kids to think about things that they want. So there we were. My hubby and I were sitting with our 3 year old and 8 year old (the 6 month old was long asleep) waiting for the midnight ball to drop on New Years. I decide to break out my first attempt at teaching the importance of setting goals to my kids. And sort of to my husband.

My oldest said that he had heard of New Years Revolutions. Ummmm adorable. I didn’t correct him. Everyone took their turn saying what they wanted to improve on. My husband said he wanted to stress less and try more new activities. Our oldest said he wanted to become a better hockey player. Our 3 year old said he wanted to watch more tv. Not a fan of that last one, but I also think he was just trying to fit in and yelled the first thing that came to mind.

I set three Goals. One personal, one career and one health:

  • I said I wanted to walk 3 million steps this year. This I counted as personal because I usually walk with friends and it pushes me to set up more hangouts.
  • I wanted to launch a blog. This meant having a live site with something to read on it.
  • I wanted to lose 60lbs to which I am very careful to explain to the kids is for health reasons.

By the end of the year I had:

  • I Walked 2, 769,900 steps. So close!
  • Blog was not at this point launched. I had done a lot of online courses but was in full “paralysis by analysis” mode
  • I lost 20lbs

Although I didn’t quite fully accomplish any of the goals I set, but this is all part of the process. Goal setting is meant to guide us and sometimes you don’t fully reach them and that’s ok. You can then reflect on what you could have done differently and what you can do moving forward to make those goals happen.

I ran the long game on this one. I wanted to fully demonstrate to my kids that I set these three goals in a SMART way. They are simple, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely. I made these goals in a way that I could sit down with them in one year and I had either clearly reached the goal or I didn’t.

I could then talk to them about all the ways I could have worked a bit harder to get to them. Instead of watching an hour of TV at night I could have gone for a walk an extra 3 nights a week. My kids know how much I love my extra large steeped tea with two cream and two sugars from Tim Hortons. I get one every day. Maybe I could treat myself to 3 per week and be a bit healthier.

I also wanted to show them that their goals were amazing (except the tv one) but that they didn’t really have a way to measure them. My son is absolutely a better hockey player than he was last year but in what way? If he had said he wanted to be able skate backwards from one end of the rink to the other in under 10 seconds, or make a higher division team, or practice his stick handling 15 min/day at home after school he would know whether he had achieved his goal or not.

If my husband said he wanted to try one new activity with the kids per month and documented it, we would have a fun thing to look at one year later.

This year we sat down as a family again at New years. Its kind of becoming a fun tradition for us. The nice thing is though, you can start it at anytime. Our plan is that we made our goals. Now we will have a family night out every two months and check in to see how everyone is doing. We will celebrate and encourage each other to reach them. It helps teach the kids that sense of accountability and more importantly the appreciation of achieving something through hard work.

The parameters we used were:

For My husband and I: (SEE MY FULL GOALS BELOW)

  • 3 Goals for Health
  • 3 Goals for Career
  • 3 Goals for Personal Life

For the Kids:

  • 1 Goal for Health
  • 1 Goal for Personal Life

My Goals for my health:

  1. Eat a salad for lunch 5 times/week
  2. Ride my spin bike 3 times/week minimum or avg 12/month
  3. Get minimum of 6 hours a sleep/night. I’m really bad about staying up late and getting 5 or less.

My Goals for my Career:

  1. Set aside 5 hours/week to work. No exceptions
  2. Set mini goals and stick to them. Not constantly revise them
  3. Meet with my mentor, co-motivator once every two months. (This is a really good friend that is also trying to start a different business and we use each other to keep motivated and chat about challenges we are facing)

My Goals for my personal Life:

  1. Cut my phone screen time in half. If you have an apple phone it logs your screen time and I will look at my averages and cut it in half
  2. Walk 3 million steps. I’m going to try it again and success this time!
  3. We will stick to our kid date night schedule. My hubby and I always have good intentions that we will take our two older ones out individually for little nights once a month. He goes with one and I go with the other and then on the following month we switch. The schedule is set with good intentions but things always seem to come up with activities, or sick little ones or a million other reasons and it falls by the wayside.

BRINGING GOAL SETTING TO YOUR FAMILY

The most important thing about teaching Goal Setting with kids is making it fun and consistent. Here are the steps I recommend to have success and implement this life long skill to your little munchkins

1. Introduce the idea of Goal Setting  – Have the initial conversation. Introduce your kids to the concept of goal setting. Talk to them about why people do it. Why it can be very valuable. Give them example of ways that its helped you.

2. Demonstrate by setting a goal for yourself – Pick a goal that you work on over a month. Start small. I started with a year long goal and it was too big a time frame. By the time we were readdressing goal setting a year later I was starting all over again. A month or even two weeks is much more realistic with kids. Remember to show them it in the SMART method. For an example. I will have three TV free nights a week for the next two weeks.

  • SIMPLE – There’s no question. Its very easy to understand
  • MEASURABLE – Really easy to show the kids if I did it or not
  • ATTAINABLE – I certainly hope I can go three nights a week with no TV
  • REALISTIC – You bet its realistic. Seven nights maybe not. Three. yes
  • TIMELY – I can achieve it in the time set. For this example the time is built right in but in another goal you may try and set something like I’m going to workout once this summer. Its not overly timely because you’re being vague and not pushing yourself.

3. Once they see how to goal set, ask them to pick one – I guarantee its not going to be a perfect SMART goal. It will probably be vague, super cute and the best thing you’ve heard all week. Either way, encourage them and celebrate whatever they come up with. Get them to share it with people for fun. Grandma, people at the grocery store, their teacher. Make it a BIG deal for fun. Try to guide them into setting something small. An example would be that they make their bed every day for a week.

4. Once they have set a goal, make sure they stick to it – Goals are pretty useless it you don’t do anything with them. Don’t nag them or force them. Just give them gentle reminders once or twice a day and acknowledge when they make steps towards it on their own. This is just a small first intro goal. You don’t want to make goal setting too much work or boring from the get go otherwise they will start to associate it as negative. Once the time frame of their first goal is up, have a discussion about how the goal went. Whether they accomplished it or not, there is lots to learn about what happened and how they can try again.

5. Have a Goal Setting Family night – Pick a night that you have no where else to be or focus on. Sit down together and take turns writing out your goals. Have older siblings help younger ones if they aren’t able to write yet. Do it in your own style. Get special snacks. Make posters and put them up. Play loud music and yell out a goal once someone has set one. Be silly and make a pretend list of goals for dad that poke fun. Make it a night that kids will look forward to in the future.

6. Make a Goal Check in and Celebration night out – Set a date that you can go out as a family and bring your goal lists. Try to do it every couple of months. It can be fun to see what people have accomplished. Each goal is going to have different time lengths so some may be finished and need celebrating! Others might need ongoing or revising. This has to be done in your family’s style as well. We like to tease each other excessively so we would probably poke a lot of fun at anyone falling behind. Either way it should be a night that the whole family looks forward to.

At this point you and your kids will be well on your way to making goal setting and achieving a part of your life. Just always remember to keep it fun and consistent. It truly is a part of my life that I am so grateful for. I won’t pretend that I do it all the time but I always come back to it. I’m so happy to pass it onto my kidlets.

Happy Goal Setting!